Tips & Isu Kahwin

Assalamualaikum..ape khabar smua?? ehhee..

Malam ni saje nk share pasal isu kawen actuatlly ada apa dengn kahwin ek?? Sebab bila nk kahwin je mcm2 msalah itu la ini la..padahal kahwin tu senang je..rukun nikah 5, wali, saksi, pengatin, baligh, Islam, mas kahwin. senang je kn?? kita yang buat susah2..nak tau kat mana yang susah nye??

Yang susah nye bila seseorng tu terasa nk kahwin dia fkir xde duit nk kawin. itu la masalah nye. sedangkn NH rasa mas kawin paling mahal negeri Selangor RM300, yang lain mcm Pahang and Johor RM22.50. So i thnk evryone mmpu kot as long as u alls da bersedia nk pikul tanggungjawab.

Masalah nye orang kita tak nak ikut guidance yg Islam da bag, sibuk nk kisahkn benda-benda yang tak wajib, pastu yang NH paling tak setuju mengada-ngada minta hantran tinggi. Enough la girls, klu u alls tu solat 5 waktu ckup, hafaz al quran, aurat tutup sempurna mungkin ok la kot nk demand hantaran tggi2 ( tapi selalu orang mcm ni x demand langsung )

Satu lag trend sekarang kawen je buat loan. Banyak plak tu ada yg sampai berpuluh ribu. 10 taun plak tu instalment. Pelik la. Sebab apa?? Sebab girls2 ni mostly minta hantaran 5 angka masing2 nk glemer, pastu ditambah parents pulak minta, pastu lag konon nk jaga hati orang tak nak mengata la apa la. I totally disagree!!! Diorang nk mengata pn ad diorang tolong bayarkn u alls punya instalment, sekadar nk pujian yang sehari dua tu xpayah la sampai installment 10 tahun.

So my advide kat sini, actually when u da 18 tahun plz do your saving n work hard sebab one day u alls mesti nk kahwin jugak kn?? so bila da sampai time tu xde la terkial2..Of coz la kita ad wedding dream or hajat apa2 on our wedding & its need money cuma jagan la ikut kn nafsu. Da u alls tak nak saving awal-awal kenapa.?? If u alls bag reason age 18-24 tu student life, hey come on la, NH pn pernah student jugak and i can save the money and Alhamdulilah sedikt sebyak ad la jugak dreams yang tercapai. tak payah loan.Actually masa student ni la u alls boleh make a lot of money cause u alls ad banyak time. im a student bfore so i know.i never demand to my future( now my rumet *hubby ku *) any sum.

I wanna share my experience, so tak yah la u alls nk demand baju Richo Rinaldi or JV kalu da tak  mampu, tp yang mampu tu xde masalh la. u alls limit la bju u alls letak price siap2 n cari tailor biasa2 je cantik jugak, yang mahal tu brand aje, my wedding 80% DIY, catering je tak, siapa nk masakn kn?? jemputan pun x payah la nk beribu, unless u alls public figure. Sahabat handai jiran kiri kanan saudara mara ckup la.

During my wedding day of coz la i do the survey, pelamin smua la apa la..makan ribu riban, oh NO!! its not me, NH meeting with siblings n we all do it together, pada bayar kat orang beribu2 kan..padahal boleh buat sndr je..tapi of coz la tak grand mcm artis.But simple and nice. Dalam dua tiga ratus pun da siap.

And wedding dress gotong royong patch lace with my mom and sister, doorgift pun almost DIY sndr. still nice.(tolong jagn bandingkn dengan wedding artis k), even i afford to buy my wedding bed sheet yg ratus2 jugak2 la kot, but its for my room, im a bride on that time of coz la i want my room look beautiful and calm untuk dinikmati..hehhee

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Lagi satu actually u alls boleh beli benda tu sikit-sikit, so tak  la terasa sangat..Bulan ni baju, bulan depan bunga2, bulan lag satu bed sheet and whats not. simple kn?? and actually wedding dress RM 300 pun da boleh dapat yang cantik tau..

Lag satu  pasal prents yang demand nk hantran tggi la apa la..Actually duit hantarn tu tak wajib and FYI, bukn tanggujwab pengantin yang sediakn, it is our responsibility as a parents kahwin kn anak, so why bebankan smua dekat menantu ( bg anak dia perempuan) pliz thnk. We have Islam as guidance.

Yes!!  i do understand as woman of coz la we alls nk wedding kat Palace Dutches, fresh flowers and whats not, but then berbaloi ke sampai berhutang2 berpuluh2 ribu only for the one day event??

One of my friend puji my wedding dress cantik when i show her the photo and i reply my wedding dress not beautiful as hers ( this time mmg rendah diri la sngat sbb only i know the cost of my wedding dress, serius murah kot) cause i know her status and her job. But she reply back its not about the money but its about the happiness.Yes im not hiring any wedding planner and i planed it my self with my mom and sister. I even do the make up myself, i learn how to do it from my friend. Actually u can do if u want. can u imagine?? one time make up paling rendah it cost 500, kalu da 2 times, thousand, padahal brang2 makeup body shop RM200 da boleh dapat (on sale..hehhe)..memang x la 1k nk bag kat orang mcam tu je.. Sorry.. baik i buat beli tiket flight g  honeymoon lag bgus..hehhee...we can save a lot actually below 10k u can have such a wonderful wedding. Trust me!! and Yes, im so happy on my wedding day cause my cousins from all over the world ( seriusly sbb ada yg dr UK, ireland, jeddah and mcm2 negra lag, diorang duk sana )came and celebrate the happiness with me and pray for me and husband, that more important than anything. yang penting BAROKAH, tak lupa juga kawan2 yang sanggup datang dar jauh ( mmg kawn sejati je dijemput, cause small event, )

Yang lag besh part hantran, sorry not in my list , cause for me seriusly meyemak kot mcam xde function lansung. berdulan2.ergghh..but thank to my mommy and sister surprised me for the handmade hantaran for my wedding day. ( i saw the hantaran kat depan mata masa nk ijab dan kabul, hahhah..masa tu, owh ada hantran rupa nye..hehhe..tp few je la xde la sampai berbelas2 dulang)

So as a coclusion ( da mcam formal sngat la pulak kn?) adik2 n kakak yang berhasrat nk jd bride tu fikir2 kanlah kalu bakal suami tu cikgu je jangan la demand sangat if u alls nak pn, kumpul la sndr. jangan myusahkn orng lain, lebih baik korng perg beli rumah perabot dekat ikea hias rumah korng cantik2 yg korng nk duduk degn suami/isteri korng hari2 tu lag better dr habiskn hanya tuk sehari

Lastly mohon ampun salah silap kalu macm NH ni pndai sangat..Just rasa kesian je kat orng yang x boleh nk pikir benda yabg betul. As muslims do refer to Islam.

P/S: To guys, klau futrue wife korang demand sangat tggal je..ahhaha. tp fikir la jugak tu appreciate famly diorang dah jagakan ur wife selama ni. kena la reti berbudi bahasa jugak nk amek anak orang kan?? xde la kata xde hantran or gift lansung. fikir2 kan la.

Special thank to my prents siblings and relatives, u all really work hard for my wedding. And not forget to my friend yang sanggup datang umah hari2 tutorial make up. I like your make up style, kemas and natural.love sangat!!

tq..love u alls sbb tu nak share.